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March 15, 2008
Genesis 2:24
I am starting an indepth study, myself, of understanding what the Bible puts out there as healthy relationships for a mother, father, parent... and honoring our parents in all stages of life. Actually Dh is also doing this with me at home and sharing his findings with me as well. He is reading some Christian articles which use other supporting verses. I am starting the study with a Bible CD and using searches. I also am reading Adventist Home which brings out some of these points.
I thought I would post a verse, give some thoughts and if anyone else has additional thoughts, examples of what the verse is talking about to please share as it will add to the discussion and we all will be more fully blessed to study together. I will be blessed, personally, with additional insight that you all might have to share.
So to today's verse:
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.Genesis 2:24"
~*~
This verse to me has many implications. The obvious one being that when you marry you have your own family with your wife/husband... not depending on parents.
re: financially, emotionally, and space
EX. we have friends that have lived with the husband's parents for 10 years. They both would tell you how hard that is on marriage and just life in general... it affects so many things.
~*~
A second thought... as you are raised up, you live in your parents' home. You lived by their rules, you obeyed your parents. You were under their leadership.
Now that you are married, you are your own family. You lead now your own family and make your rules and lifestyle. You are no longer a part of that family unit you grew up in, you are in a new one with possibly different order, rules, foods, etc.
~*~
You are one flesh brings in the thought that we (husband/wife) now work together to guide our new family. It is not one or the other it is both. We honor and respect each other because our home is his home AND her home. It is not to do as I please, but as "we" agree upon.
Being one flesh also means that I cannot hurt my husband without hurting myself and likewise he cannot hurt me without hurting himself. We are one. when one hurts, both hurt.
~*~
Shall cleave to his wife... kind of brings thoughts that new ideas go past each other... not the husband going and talking to his friends and coming home and saying... we're not doing this anymore... bam.
EX. When I first married, my mother lived with us, so communication was hard. My husband than turned to his mother and talked to her for an hour or so ... several days a week. He and her would make decisions based on their conversations and I was left out. His excuse was we never had time to talk alone.... which was true. Having a parent in the home goes along with point number one... it is hard to make your home your own... your family your own, as you have your parents known rules sitting right there in your living room. We both erred in two points... one not departing from our parents and not cleaving to each other. (This has resolved by the way. *Grin*)
I'd love to hear your ideas, too... or examples.
I thought I would post a verse, give some thoughts and if anyone else has additional thoughts, examples of what the verse is talking about to please share as it will add to the discussion and we all will be more fully blessed to study together. I will be blessed, personally, with additional insight that you all might have to share.
So to today's verse:
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.Genesis 2:24"
~*~
This verse to me has many implications. The obvious one being that when you marry you have your own family with your wife/husband... not depending on parents.
re: financially, emotionally, and space
EX. we have friends that have lived with the husband's parents for 10 years. They both would tell you how hard that is on marriage and just life in general... it affects so many things.
~*~
A second thought... as you are raised up, you live in your parents' home. You lived by their rules, you obeyed your parents. You were under their leadership.
Now that you are married, you are your own family. You lead now your own family and make your rules and lifestyle. You are no longer a part of that family unit you grew up in, you are in a new one with possibly different order, rules, foods, etc.
~*~
You are one flesh brings in the thought that we (husband/wife) now work together to guide our new family. It is not one or the other it is both. We honor and respect each other because our home is his home AND her home. It is not to do as I please, but as "we" agree upon.
Being one flesh also means that I cannot hurt my husband without hurting myself and likewise he cannot hurt me without hurting himself. We are one. when one hurts, both hurt.
~*~
Shall cleave to his wife... kind of brings thoughts that new ideas go past each other... not the husband going and talking to his friends and coming home and saying... we're not doing this anymore... bam.
EX. When I first married, my mother lived with us, so communication was hard. My husband than turned to his mother and talked to her for an hour or so ... several days a week. He and her would make decisions based on their conversations and I was left out. His excuse was we never had time to talk alone.... which was true. Having a parent in the home goes along with point number one... it is hard to make your home your own... your family your own, as you have your parents known rules sitting right there in your living room. We both erred in two points... one not departing from our parents and not cleaving to each other. (This has resolved by the way. *Grin*)
I'd love to hear your ideas, too... or examples.
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